The Journey to Understand Eachother: LGBT children and their parents

To ‘Understand Each Other’ requires that parents listen, share, and help their children overcome fears about being LGBT.

“The journey of each father or mother towards accepting and supporting the gender or sexuality of their children is far from simple. Most of them have experienced distress, confusion, and anger. Many of them have even beaten their children or forced them to undergo psychological treatment, hormone treatment and other measures to prevent their ‘normal’ children from becoming ‘abnormal.’”

“Instead of tears, now we can meet each other in laughter. After we, ourselves, went through a long journey to understand our children, we hope other families can also soon realize that it is important to show love in the appropriate ways and to fight for their children’s rights to live happily and be their true selves,” shared a parent of an LGBT person.

“The journey to understand one’s children” is an effort of the popular group – Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). It is also the name of PFLAG’s annual event.

Các thành viên PFlag tham gia sự kiện cộng đồng
 Members of PFlag joining community public event (Photo: Facebook PFlag)

Over the past three years, the program ‘Journey to Understand One’s Children’’ has traveled to many cities and provinces throughout Vietnam, connecting two generations: LGBT people and their parents. A number of parents have come to accept their children with love thanks to the program.

Hằng năm, PFlag đều tổ chức những buổi gặp mặt, tập huấn và chia sẻ cùng nhau
Annually, PFlag members gathering at meeting, couching and sharing events

Mrs. Dinh Thi Yen Ly (Chair of PFLAG Vietnam) noted: “The journey to understand children has traveled from the South to the North. However, since the program was launched, it has not yet had the opportunity to visit Ho Chi Minh City and nearby provinces.

As a result, PFLAG decided to organize meetings for parents, families, and supporters of LGBT people in Ho Chi Minh City and nearby provinces such as Binh Duong, Dong Nai, Vung Tau and Long An. In hopes of bringing accurate information about LGBT people to parents, we will spread love based on mutual understanding between parents and children. Thus, ‘The journey to understand children’ will now be named ‘The journey to understand each other.’

‘Understanding each other’ is to help parents to listen to, share, and help their children overcome the fear of being LGBT and being torn between to live in their true selves and to disappoint parents for not meeting their expectations.

To truly understand each other is to help LGBT people understand the difficulties, worries, and fears family members, friends, colleagues, and neighbors face about the LGBT people